'Unexpected' events hold great potentials for growth regardless of our judgement of them. When I face an unexpected event, I can observe my reaction on multi-levels: my physical response to the event, psychological, emotional one, and how my brain starts to repair the damage these responses caused. I'm always astounded to see the brain's strategy to use the patterns learned in the past. And this is exactly what I think as counterproductive. When we see life on a large scale, most things don't proceed exactly as we had imagined. In fact, this is what makes life so potent. But somehow, most of us are not used to dealing with the 'unexpected'.